Wrong Conceptions: Sexual Identity

Many at times people are being used as 'cover-up'; they use others as cover-ups as to make people believe they are what they are not. When you get to know that you have been used, just count your blessings and move on calmly, with the hope and believe that the right person will come along your way. If you were fooled before getting into a relationship, never blame yourself, you are not to be blamed, the heavy burden lies on the other party. Sexual identity/sexual orientation is the fact of being heterosexual, homosexual, or bisexual. If you belong to one, do not go bothering and deceiving others that don't fall within your sexual orientation, it won't work for long; also don't hurt the feelings of others, each individual knows where they are and where they want to be, and has the right to make a choice.

We all often get it wrong, thinking about what is not, and getting mad unnecessarily. Have you ever been with your 'partner' at a point, taking a walk on the street or driving; or even at an event, and he or she keep looking at a direction, and you suddenly say, "why are you looking at that man"? Hey she might not be looking at a man, but at a woman next to the man. You got it wrong, she's bisexual, but you never knew. What of a man looking straight in a direction and you thought was looking at the girl at the other side; hey no... he was just looking at the man next to the girl. He's not the man you thought he was, he's bisexual or even homosexual; he decided to use you as a cover up.

You keep nagging other people of the same sex as you; thinking your man is after that pretty lady, hey no... He's after that pretty man. Maybe you're nagging, thinking that, your woman is after that man. Hey no... she's after that pretty lady.

At times, things are not what we think they are. If her/his way of life is not meant for you, then move on. They might promise you heaven and earth, saying they will change; it might take heaven to come down to earth for the change to happen. If that's not what you want to settle for, just move on and count your blessings.

Bear in mind that, we get treated the way we allowed to be treated, if you are disrespected and lied to and you accept it by putting up with it, then, don't blame anybody but yourself. He/she has the right to live his/her life the way he/she wants, just as much as you have the right to cut the bond if not suitable for you.

Decency demands telling the one you intend to be with about your sexual orientation, the person has the right to know what he or she wants to go into; don't forget there are thousands of people out there that are ready to accept you just the way you are, don't force any other individual into your world.

Remember, any relationship built on falsehood will surely collapse; give the other the choice to say Yes or No. If the relationship should start without the other party knowing what he or she is into, and eventually gets to know, the right is theirs to opt out.

Don't prolong the 'dating/relationship', because it will never work out the way you want it; be truthful to yourself and others from the very beginning and stay happy.