Monogamy With Hidden Agendas

Why do we deceive ourselves? Let's come straight and be frank with our inner selves. It's very difficult for a lot of people, especially men, to strictly practice monogamy. Human nature says it all, also many religions, cultures and society permit it because of one reason or the other. This is cool and acceptable by so many with deep understanding from the beginning or at a point when things change. The ones that can bear it will hold on to it, the ones that cannot will leave. It's a matter of choice, no one should force anyone to be part of  any lifestyle they do not want to be part of. One thing for sure, a lot do stay in a polygamous relationship with deep understanding and agreement.

The worst part of it, is to be in denial and live under self inflicted pains caused by lies and deception. Be who you are and be plain with it, life is too short for you to wait for other's approval. Some clergy do demand their devotees to do this, to do that, don't do this, don't do that; but they are the first that do go against what they preach. Yes! They have the right to do what they desire to do, but forcing others to believe and do what they (clergy) say while they (clergy) are insincere, is wrong and unfair. We are all different and our journey in life is different too, so we must not force others to live in such a way that's displeasing to them, just to please others. Obviously that will turn to a fake lifestyle.

If you are polygamous, don't pretend to be monogamous, while you have hidden agendas. Monogamy + Hidden agenda(s) = Polygamy (either you make the hidden others official or not.)

Be open and be happy; don't die in silence and in fear. When everyone in the relationship is aware, there will be nothing to hide again, nothing to lie about; then you will be at peace with your inner self. It will be more interesting and also a peaceful atmosphere.

Be free by being real with yourself and others.